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Sex Should Never Be Used As a Weapon

Posted on January 6, 2026 (January 6, 2026) by Ray Valenzuela

Using Sex as a form of punishment is withholding intimacy. It is withholding an opportunity to bond with your partner. Withholding sex is a form of psychological and emotional abuse. It is a manipulative behavior that is unhealthy and that can cause trust issues, intimacy issues and long-term connections within the relationship. Sex should be […]

Happy New Years To Me

Posted on December 29, 2025 (December 22, 2025) by Arnold Gonzalez

With the new year upon us, we need to make sure that we take time to reflect on the past year and how much we have learned and how far we have come. We need to celebrate all the accomplishments, achievements and wins that we have had over the past twelve months. We need to […]

Your Past Does Not Define Your Future

Posted on December 22, 2025 (December 22, 2025) by Arnold Gonzalez

Sure, your past may have sucked. It may have been hard. But it doesn’t have to define you as a person, and it doesn’t define the future version of you. So many clients come in and say that therapy has never worked for them in the past. They say to me that their past is […]

Are you Leading your Life, Or Just Living It

Posted on December 15, 2025 (December 15, 2025) by Ray Valenzuela

Are you leading your best life, or are you just living life? Are you making the most of each moment and everyday or are you just going through the motions and living? Most people today do not lead their lives, they just accept it for what it is and are not looking to make the […]

Does Your Current Relationship Bring You Peace, Love and Happiness

Posted on December 1, 2025 (August 3, 2026) by Ray Valenzuela

Home› Blog› Does Your Relationship Bring You Peace, Love, and Happiness? A thoughtful relationship health check How Does Your Relationship Feel Most of the Time? A strong relationship will not feel peaceful, loving, and happy every moment. Real couples experience stress, disagreement, disappointment, and change. The more useful question is whether your relationship provides a […]

Tips for a Lasting Relationship

Posted on November 10, 2025 (August 3, 2026) by JastMedia

Home› Blog› Tips for a Lasting Relationship Small habits that protect connection Lasting Relationships Are Built in Everyday Moments A lasting relationship is not created by one perfect conversation, one romantic trip, or a life without conflict. It grows through repeated choices: paying attention, following through, repairing hurt, making room for each person, and returning […]

Would you choose your current relationship-partner again if you had the option

Posted on November 3, 2025 (August 3, 2026) by Ray Valenzuela

Home› Blog› Would You Choose Your Current Relationship Partner Again? A thoughtful relationship self-assessment If You Could Start Over, Would You Choose Your Partner Again? It is a powerful question, but it should not be treated as a one-question test that determines whether a relationship succeeds or ends. Your answer may be influenced by a […]

How Many Red Flags Are Too Many Red Flags

Posted on October 20, 2025 (October 20, 2025) by JastMedia

Whether you are just getting into a relationship or have been in one for twenty years, things change, and “red flags” can appear. The question is what do you consider a red flag and how many reg flags is to many red flags? Are red flags truly deal breakers and what flags you may ignore […]

Never Date Or Marry Their Potential

Posted on October 13, 2025 (October 13, 2025) by JastMedia

Oh, the possibilities. Oh, the potential that they could be. Potential can be a very dangerous thing. Potential can give someone more power than they may deserve. Now I’m not saying that you should not consider someone’s potential and be their biggest cheerleader while they reach their highest potential. I am stating the importance of […]

Break Ups Suck, But You Will Survive

Posted on October 6, 2025 (October 6, 2025) by JastMedia

We have all been there. We have all had to go through it at one point or another. Some of us handle the situations differently and there is no right or wrong way to deal with it, but it can and will disrupt your daily life if you are not careful. Clients come to me […]