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Your EX has Trained Your Brain

Posted on March 30, 2026 (March 30, 2026)

The next time your current partner says that you need to get over your ex, you can tell them that it isn’t your fault. Partners all the time might think that you are hung up on your ex when you really are not, but something, you don’t know what it is, is holding you back. […]

Who Has The Hotter Date

Posted on March 23, 2026 (June 15, 2026)

When is the last time that you took your spouse on a date? I mean an actual date that you planned, make reservations, put on a clean shirt and got them flowers? When is the last time your spouse felt loved and excited to go on a date with you? When is the last time […]

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Write the damn thing down

Posted on March 17, 2026 (March 17, 2026)

42%! That is the percentage that you are more likely to achieve your goals if you write them down. Research, including a well-known study by Dr. Gail Matthews at Dominican University, found that people who wrote down their goals were significantly more likely to achieve them than those who kept them only in their heads. […]

Is Confidence a Skill or Personality Trait

Posted on February 24, 2026 (July 22, 2026)

Is confidence a skill that can be learned, or is it a personality trait that some people naturally possess? Although personality can influence how comfortable someone appears in certain situations, confidence is not limited to people who are naturally outgoing, social, or fearless. When people ask, “Is confidence a skill?” the answer is that confidence […]

The Brain of a CEO

Posted on February 9, 2026 (August 3, 2026)

Home› Blog› The Brain of a CEO Focus, decisions, and sustainable leadership Why Strong CEOs Protect Time to Think A CEO’s day can become a continuous stream of messages, meetings, decisions, and urgent requests. When every issue receives immediate attention, the leader may stay busy while losing the mental space required for strategy. CEO mindset […]

What does self-respect look like to you

Posted on February 3, 2026 (February 3, 2026)

I want you to stop for a minute and answer me this question – “What does self-respect look like to you”? What are some of the things that immediately popped into your head? Now, think of all the things that you defined self-respect to look like and tell me, are you practicing self-respect for yourself? […]

Are You Ready To Re-Wire Your Brain?

Posted on January 26, 2026 (January 26, 2026)

Did you know that feeling grateful can re-wire your brain to be happy and think positively. According to a study by Dr. Alex Korb PhD, being grateful changes your brain chemistry by activating the brainstem region that produces dopamine. In his book “The Upward Spiral” Korb talks about how feeling down can feel like a […]

What Are Personal Boundaries and What Do They Look Like

Posted on January 19, 2026 (August 3, 2026)

Home› Blog› Personal Boundaries in Relationships Clear limits, mutual respect, and healthier connection What Personal Boundaries Look Like in Everyday Relationships Personal boundaries in relationships are the limits that communicate what you are comfortable with, what you need, and how you will respond when a limit is crossed. They can protect your physical space, emotional […]

Healing Starts With Letting Go

Posted on January 12, 2026 (January 12, 2026)

Healing starts with letting go. Sometimes it is not about the other person or the person that you have lost (or even the sales deal). It is about letting go of the old version of yourself. It is about the unknown. It is about change and most of us fear change. You are going to […]

Sex Should Never Be Used As a Weapon

Posted on January 6, 2026 (January 6, 2026)

Using Sex as a form of punishment is withholding intimacy. It is withholding an opportunity to bond with your partner. Withholding sex is a form of psychological and emotional abuse. It is a manipulative behavior that is unhealthy and that can cause trust issues, intimacy issues and long-term connections within the relationship. Sex should be […]

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