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Your EX has Trained Your Brain

Posted on March 30, 2026 (March 30, 2026)

The next time your current partner says that you need to get over your ex, you can tell them that it isn’t your fault. Partners all the time might think that you are hung up on your ex when you really are not, but something, you don’t know what it is, is holding you back. […]

Who Has The Hotter Date

Posted on March 23, 2026 (March 23, 2026)

When is the last time that you took your spouse on a date? I mean an actual date that you planned, make reservations, put on a clean shirt and got them flowers? When is the last time your spouse felt loved and excited to go on a date with you? When is the last time […]

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Write the damn thing down

Posted on March 17, 2026 (March 17, 2026)

42%! That is the percentage that you are more likely to achieve your goals if you write them down. Research, including a well-known study by Dr. Gail Matthews at Dominican University, found that people who wrote down their goals were significantly more likely to achieve them than those who kept them only in their heads. […]

Is Confidence a Skill or Personality Trait

Posted on February 24, 2026 (February 24, 2026)

OK, hear me out. Some of you might disagree with what I am about to say. It’s not a controversial topic, but it is one that has been debated in academia or the academic world for years. “Confidence”! Confidence in my opinion is a skill and not a personality trait as some claim it to […]

The Brain of a CEO

Posted on February 9, 2026 (February 9, 2026)

Do you know what is the secret for being a successful high-powered executive? Do you know what makes some of the high-profile CEOs in business today so successful? The answer isn’t their education or sense for business. It is that they work from home for 90-minutes each morning so that they can concentrate on their […]

What does self-respect look like to you

Posted on February 3, 2026 (February 3, 2026)

I want you to stop for a minute and answer me this question – “What does self-respect look like to you”? What are some of the things that immediately popped into your head? Now, think of all the things that you defined self-respect to look like and tell me, are you practicing self-respect for yourself? […]

Are You Ready To Re-Wire Your Brain?

Posted on January 26, 2026 (January 26, 2026)

Did you know that feeling grateful can re-wire your brain to be happy and think positively. According to a study by Dr. Alex Korb PhD, being grateful changes your brain chemistry by activating the brainstem region that produces dopamine. In his book “The Upward Spiral” Korb talks about how feeling down can feel like a […]

What Are Personal Boundaries and What Do They Look Like

Posted on January 19, 2026 (January 19, 2026)

I get asked all the time-what are personal boundaries and what do they look like? The real question is what do they look like to you and what do they mean for you? Personal boundaries are different for every person and only the individual can define what their boundaries look like. By definition, Personal boundaries […]

Healing Starts With Letting Go

Posted on January 12, 2026 (January 12, 2026)

Healing starts with letting go. Sometimes it is not about the other person or the person that you have lost (or even the sales deal). It is about letting go of the old version of yourself. It is about the unknown. It is about change and most of us fear change. You are going to […]

Sex Should Never Be Used As a Weapon

Posted on January 6, 2026 (January 6, 2026)

Using Sex as a form of punishment is withholding intimacy. It is withholding an opportunity to bond with your partner. Withholding sex is a form of psychological and emotional abuse. It is a manipulative behavior that is unhealthy and that can cause trust issues, intimacy issues and long-term connections within the relationship. Sex should be […]

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