Relationships | Life Coaching

What Are Personal Boundaries and What Do They Look Like

Posted on January 19, 2026 (January 19, 2026) by Ray Valenzuela

I get asked all the time-what are personal boundaries and what do they look like? The real question is what do they look like to you and what do they mean for you? Personal boundaries are different for every person and only the individual can define what their boundaries look like. By definition, Personal boundaries […]

Healing Starts With Letting Go

Posted on January 12, 2026 (January 12, 2026) by Ray Valenzuela

Healing starts with letting go. Sometimes it is not about the other person or the person that you have lost (or even the sales deal). It is about letting go of the old version of yourself. It is about the unknown. It is about change and most of us fear change. You are going to […]

Sex Should Never Be Used As a Weapon

Posted on January 6, 2026 (January 6, 2026) by Ray Valenzuela

Using Sex as a form of punishment is withholding intimacy. It is withholding an opportunity to bond with your partner. Withholding sex is a form of psychological and emotional abuse. It is a manipulative behavior that is unhealthy and that can cause trust issues, intimacy issues and long-term connections within the relationship. Sex should be […]

Does Your Current Relationship Bring You Peace, Love and Happiness

Posted on December 1, 2025 (December 1, 2025) by Ray Valenzuela

Are you currently in your relationship for the right reasons? Are you currently getting everything that you need out of your relationship? Can you say that you are truly happy to be in your current relationship with your current partner or do you think that you can be happier somewhere else and in a different […]

Tips for a Lasting Relationship

Posted on November 10, 2025 (November 10, 2025) by JastMedia

I have said it before, and I will continue to say it for years to come. The hardest job that you will ever have is your relationship with your partner. The second hardest job will be raising a family. They can interchange daily, but the rest of the jobs are easy compared to these two. […]

Would you choose your current relationship-partner again if you had the option

Posted on November 3, 2025 (November 3, 2025) by Ray Valenzuela

Working with couples (whether they are married or not) that are facing obstacles in their relationship, we need to get to the root cause of the issue and why they are coming to see me. The issue that they come to see me for may not be the actual issue that they are having with […]

How Many Red Flags Are Too Many Red Flags

Posted on October 20, 2025 (October 20, 2025) by JastMedia

Whether you are just getting into a relationship or have been in one for twenty years, things change, and “red flags” can appear. The question is what do you consider a red flag and how many reg flags is to many red flags? Are red flags truly deal breakers and what flags you may ignore […]

Break Ups Suck, But You Will Survive

Posted on October 6, 2025 (October 6, 2025) by JastMedia

We have all been there. We have all had to go through it at one point or another. Some of us handle the situations differently and there is no right or wrong way to deal with it, but it can and will disrupt your daily life if you are not careful. Clients come to me […]

No Reason To Chase… Ever

Posted on September 29, 2025 (September 29, 2025) by JastMedia

No matter which dating coach you listen to, they all say never to chase. Coaches are telling the women to never chase men and men are being told to never chase women. If this is the case that no one is supposed to chase, then how will anyone ever get together if no one is […]

Quickest Path to Divorce: The One Key Indicator

Posted on September 10, 2025 (September 10, 2025) by JastMedia

People and couples ask me all the time what are some of the things that I see in my sessions that are key indicators that couples will get divorced or that this one thing will lead to the relationship breaking up. Is there a magic indicator? I am sure there is, and I am sure […]